School has been going great, for most of us anyway.... Zander not so much. It has been a month now and he has gotten no better unfortunately. He screams and cries every time I leave him, but that I can deal with... the little guy has been with either his dad, me or his beloved Sissy or Dylan 24/7 for the last year and a half, of course me dumping him with complete strangers is going to take some adjustment. The real problem is that he will stay there for 8 hours and refuse to eat, drink, or use the bathroom the entire time. He also spends the entire time he is there hiding under a table, and if a teacher or another kid dares to try to talk to him he will flip out all over again. I have tried everything I can think of... I have sent him in with his favorite sippy cup and snack, he just ignores it all day. I have tried to get him to take his baby, or a favorite toy, but he will pry open my hands and force me to take these things back before we get to the door. I am out of ideas, I have talked to him for countless hours, told him what a big boy he was. He says he wants to be a baby. I asked him if he would rather go to a babysitter and that is the only time he has perked up.... but then he told me that only Dylan or Sissy could babysit him. He has even tried ploys such as bringing me his sandals, which he knows are not allowed at school, and telling me that his tennis shoes were lost. His latest was that he told me that his daddy said he was not allowed to go to school anymore, and if I took him I would be in big trouble. I am not sure what to do to ease the transition for the little guy.... how can this sweet guy being so sad not break my heart??
Now on to the big changes. I got a job! I will start on Monday at the University of Phoenix! The logistics of this have been a challenge since we have only 1 car, and Adam is in school, and I will be working until 6, and I can't find a daycare that is open past 6, which means that Adam will have to pick him up every day. So the only logical solution to this problem was to move to a location from which Adam could walk to school, and walk to Zander's daycare to pick him up every day while I took the car to work. We found an apartment right across from the law school, and a daycare for Zander right around the corner so we jumped on it. It is in downtown Phoenix, which is more than a little bit scary for me... there is not much that freaks me out more than huge roads, and those stupid signs that say you cannot use the turn lane for turning at certain times of the day because it is used as a lane for rush hour during those times.... who thinks of these things?? But our apartment is great. It is a really nice place, which we can afford because they give a great discount for students that the law school. Aidan started at his new school yesterday and is very happy. He has made friends with a few kids who live in the same complex as us already and loves his teacher. Aidan is so smart and outgoing that I know he will excel. Zander will start at his new "Daycare" on Monday. We have visited it and he seemed to like it.... he insists that he will like daycare much more than he liked school, so we will see how it goes!
Adam and I are doing better than ever. This last year has been a tough one, presenting more challenges than I even thought possible, but we got through them, and we are stronger as a couple after getting though everything together. I know that this new change will do wonders for us all as individuals, as well as for us as a family!
